The greatest malaise in the West today is not physical; it is being unwanted, unloved, and uncared for. We can cure physical diseases with medicine, but the only cure for loneliness, despair, and hopelessness is love. There are many in the world who are dying for a piece of bread but there are many more dying for a little love. The poverty in the West is a different kind of poverty -- it is not only a poverty of loneliness but also of spirituality. There's a hunger for love.
I have noticed that when I truly loved a Western woman, she got cold feet and ran away. But when I talked about and showed outward signs of love, she was attracted.
Love scares modern women as it immediately signals neediness, clinginess, jealousy and threatens her security because of possible out of control emotions.... she feels it is a honey trap! She is also scaread of the fact that the floor might give under her feet when she loses control of her own emotions.
In her experience, love creates more misery than joy. Ninety-nine percent of it is bitter; there is only that one percent of sugar that you have coated on top of it. And sooner or later that sugar disappears.
Millions of people have decided not to love human beings any more. It is better to love a dog, a cat, a horse; it is better to love travel or a commune – because you can grasp its boundaries and not lose yourself, and the object of affection won't take over your life. It is simple; it is not as complex as it is going to be with human beings. Because to be in love with unaware human beings has become an utter hell, a continuous conflict – nagging, always at each other’s throats. This is the lowest form of love.
True love is an act of surrender to another person. It comes from We, not Me. I give myself to you. Because You are Me! Take me. Do anything you like with me. That's quite mad to the Thinking Mind it's letting things get out of control. All sensible people keep things in control! Watch it! Be sensible! Sense is a thought, but Love is Tao. Love is a glimpse of Infinity at its gateway, it is very hard for the Analytical mindset that uses thought to understand.
Love, in the West, means high emotions, a rollercoaster with huge ups and downs, lots of demonstrations of love. This is actually the dizzy honeymoon romantic attraction phase when the brain releases a cocktail of chemicals with fancy names (including Oxytocin, Phenylethylamine, Serotonin, and Dopamine)designed to set your heart thumping and light a fire in your loins.
Just like getting high, falling in love allows you to see your new partner through beautiful rose tinted glasses – only showing you what makes you feel good and filtering out all the bad stuff.
Your drug induced haze forces you to only notice where you’re similar, hiding your partner’s flaws. It also makes you say and do whatever is necessary to get along and please the other.
The biggest trap of the Romance stage is our dishonesty. It’s not that we lie, but more that we aren’t completely truthful. Letting our partner see who we are and know what we want might scare them off. So we keep parts of ourselves hidden. Inevitably, the Romance stage grinds to a halt when the drugs wear off. Soon that sugar wears off, and the realities start appearing in stark nakedness and the whole thing becomes something else....
This is not true, lasting love.
Love is only possible when you leave the mind like an open window instead of a panel of stained glass etched by Thought. Love is not dependent on the object of attraction, but is a radiation of your subjectivity – a radiation of your soul.
Love means sharing. Love, truth, bliss – there is an intrinsic core in them: they need to be shared; they are not sufficient unto themselves. Love is not possible without sharing.
Love has many, many layers, many planes of love - from sex to super-consciousness.
True love basically frees instread of entrapment: it gives freedom to oneself, it gives freedom to others. A love that becomes a bondage is not love; its origin is in childish posessiveness. Love gives freedom, then it becomes human, but it is still a kind of relatedness.
At its highest peak, when love is not a relationship any more, when love becomes a state of your being, the lotus opens totally and great perfume is released – but only at the highest peak. At the lowest, love is just a political relationship. At the highest, love is a religious state of consciousness.
I have noticed that when I truly loved a Western woman, she got cold feet and ran away. But when I talked about and showed outward signs of love, she was attracted.
Love scares modern women as it immediately signals neediness, clinginess, jealousy and threatens her security because of possible out of control emotions.... she feels it is a honey trap! She is also scaread of the fact that the floor might give under her feet when she loses control of her own emotions.
In her experience, love creates more misery than joy. Ninety-nine percent of it is bitter; there is only that one percent of sugar that you have coated on top of it. And sooner or later that sugar disappears.
Millions of people have decided not to love human beings any more. It is better to love a dog, a cat, a horse; it is better to love travel or a commune – because you can grasp its boundaries and not lose yourself, and the object of affection won't take over your life. It is simple; it is not as complex as it is going to be with human beings. Because to be in love with unaware human beings has become an utter hell, a continuous conflict – nagging, always at each other’s throats. This is the lowest form of love.
True love is an act of surrender to another person. It comes from We, not Me. I give myself to you. Because You are Me! Take me. Do anything you like with me. That's quite mad to the Thinking Mind it's letting things get out of control. All sensible people keep things in control! Watch it! Be sensible! Sense is a thought, but Love is Tao. Love is a glimpse of Infinity at its gateway, it is very hard for the Analytical mindset that uses thought to understand.
Love, in the West, means high emotions, a rollercoaster with huge ups and downs, lots of demonstrations of love. This is actually the dizzy honeymoon romantic attraction phase when the brain releases a cocktail of chemicals with fancy names (including Oxytocin, Phenylethylamine, Serotonin, and Dopamine)designed to set your heart thumping and light a fire in your loins.
Just like getting high, falling in love allows you to see your new partner through beautiful rose tinted glasses – only showing you what makes you feel good and filtering out all the bad stuff.
Your drug induced haze forces you to only notice where you’re similar, hiding your partner’s flaws. It also makes you say and do whatever is necessary to get along and please the other.
The biggest trap of the Romance stage is our dishonesty. It’s not that we lie, but more that we aren’t completely truthful. Letting our partner see who we are and know what we want might scare them off. So we keep parts of ourselves hidden. Inevitably, the Romance stage grinds to a halt when the drugs wear off. Soon that sugar wears off, and the realities start appearing in stark nakedness and the whole thing becomes something else....
This is not true, lasting love.
Love is only possible when you leave the mind like an open window instead of a panel of stained glass etched by Thought. Love is not dependent on the object of attraction, but is a radiation of your subjectivity – a radiation of your soul.
Love means sharing. Love, truth, bliss – there is an intrinsic core in them: they need to be shared; they are not sufficient unto themselves. Love is not possible without sharing.
Love has many, many layers, many planes of love - from sex to super-consciousness.
True love basically frees instread of entrapment: it gives freedom to oneself, it gives freedom to others. A love that becomes a bondage is not love; its origin is in childish posessiveness. Love gives freedom, then it becomes human, but it is still a kind of relatedness.
At its highest peak, when love is not a relationship any more, when love becomes a state of your being, the lotus opens totally and great perfume is released – but only at the highest peak. At the lowest, love is just a political relationship. At the highest, love is a religious state of consciousness.
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